SIMPLE TRUTHS ON LOVE

It is simply a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery why some love grows.
It is a mystery why some love fall.

You can analyze and look for reasons and causes,
But you will never do any more than take life out of experience.

Love is more than the sum of interest and attractions,
Or commonalities of two people share.
It is just as life itself. It is a gift that comes and goes in its time,
The coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift
That cannot be questioned in it way.

Too often when love comes to people,
They try to grasps the love and hold it to them.
Refusing to see that it is a gift, freely given
And a gift that just freely moves away.

When they fall out of love,
Or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving,
They try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost
Rather than accepting the gift for what it was.

They want answers, where there are no answers.
They want to know what is wrong with them
Or what went wrong and try to get their love to change
Thinking that if some small things were different, love
Will bloom again.

They blame their circumstances.
They blame each other.
They try to give meaning to what had happened.
But there is no meaning beyond love itself.
Until they accept its own mysterious ways and
They live in a sea of misery.

You need to treat what love brings you with kindness.

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you at all,
Be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart.
If you find someone else in love with you whom you feel no love,
Feel honored that love came and called at your door.
But gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how love deals with you,
And all our hearts feel the same pains and joys
Though our lives and ways are very much different.

If you fall in love with another who falls in love with you,
And then love chooses to leave,
Never reclaim it nor assess blame. Let it go!
There is no reason and there is no meaning.
You will know in time but time itself chooses its moment.

Remember, you do not choose love. Love chooses you.
Feel the way love fills you – overflowing.
Then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it to you.
Give it to others who seem poor in spirit.
Give it to the world in any best way you can.

Love has its own time and season.
It has own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or curse it or reason it into staying.
If it chooses to leave from your heart, or from the heart of your lover’s,
Then there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do.
Be glad it came to live, even for a moment in your life.
Just keep your heart open and it will surely come again…

The One That Got Away

I saw an ex-boyfriend a couple of days ago. He was my boyfriend back in College. It was actually almost like that scene from the movie, "Cruel Intention," where Ryan Philippe was waiting for Reese Witherspoon at the end of the escalator. Except that I was descending from the escalator and he was going up, not really waiting for me.

We nodded and smiled timidly but didn't really avert our gaze.

It's been 13 years... Yet I still wonder what could have been.

What if?

Great Expectations

We had a typhoon (signal no. 3) here last night and although no roofs went flying this time compared to last year, the house was nonetheless still flooded. And so after spending the night moving and stacking things on dryer areas, we get to spend the whole day mopping and cleaning and returning everything back to where it's supposed to be (or at least according to my mother's specifications, who by the way happens to be out of town at the moment, so the worse is far from being over!)

Anyway, the only good thing that ever resulted from this, is that I was forced to finally "organize" my ever growing collection of reading materials. Midway through this "harrowing" task, I noticed this old box where I keep all my old "junks" (me, being sentimental). I chuckled when I saw about five or six autograph books (a must-have during my juvenile days!). I thought about how so much has changed since the time when all my girlfriends and I ever talk about are crushes, dates, boyfriends -- boys!

I think I was about 12 or 13 years old when I told my best friend that my first boyfriend should be someone who resembles "Mr. Pure Energy," Gary Valenciano, the hottest local singer during that time. In fact, I was already eyeing someone whom I thought has the same traits as Gary V. Unfortunately, my Gary V. look-alike went out with Ms. Barbie wannabe! (Sob!)

As I grew older however, I noticed that most of the guys I've dated have some common denominator: roughly 5'6 to 5'8 (with the exception of this 6'1 guy I briefly dated -- imagine the contrast!), usually thin and has fair complexion... Come to think of it, I was actually a bit superficial before. Looks would definitely be my first consideration before I decided on whether or not I'll go out with someone.

But then of course, as some of you already know, in the long run, it's not enough that you just stare and admire a beautiful face. Eventually, you would want to talk or laugh or ask his opinion or want him to "understand" you from time to time-- hence, the inevitable breakup!

I reckon a lot of people are prone to such "mistakes" and I'm not just talking about being a sucker for beautiful people. I'm also referring to other "superficial" standards we may have unwittingly set, i.e., he/she ought to be smart, sexy, sensitive, has a good sense of humor, thoughtful, etc. etc.

It's not really wrong to want all these. However, one must also consider that "standards" will not always be met. You could maybe find Mr. So-full-of-sense-humor but he won't really be funny and cool all the time. There will be times when he would feel bad, will not be in the mood to crack jokes, or might even be a tad pissed off when you keep telling him, "cheer up, it's so not like you to be so gloomy." The same goes with Mr. Oh-so-sexy-you-can-just-eat-him-right-now... :-P

Face it guys, we're all just human -- with moods, quirks, habits, etc. nobody's really perfect, no matter how much one strives to become one. It's simply not possible since everything is relative.

So unless you want to wait until "cloning" and "selective genes enhancement" has been perfected, I suggest you take Myley Cyrus' (a.k.a. Hannah Montana) advice...